The Intelligent, Compassionate Learning Community For Lesbians++
We warmly welcome all self-identified women and adjacent non-binary people.
Updated for 2024!
The Roadmap to Conscious Lesbian Dating & Lasting Love
A 12-Week Class Which Has Changed Lives in 25 Countries.
Offered Live Just Once Per Year.
We started January 20, but you can still join us and catch up
via the recordings! It's better than waiting til 2025 :)
What's Different About Lesbian Dating & Love?
A lot! And we'll help you understand why, and how to navigate lesbian love wisely.
There's truth behind the lesbian joke about women bringing a U-Haul on the second date. Two women together do tend to bond far more quickly and intensely than couples of other genders.
This intense, rapid bonding is part of our magic, and what can make lesbian relationships the best relationships on the planet.
Yet too often, it leads to lesbian heartbreak. Studies show that the divorce rates are more than twice as high for lesbians, compared with straight or gay male couples.
The truth is, the more magical and deep a connection is, the better-prepared you need to be. Otherwise, you run the risk of bonding with lesbian super-glue to the wrong person... or, having triggers, fears and attachment style differences destroy your connection.
No one was born with conscious
lesbian dating and love skills, but everyone can learn them. The Roadmap Course exists to help you find the right partner, and be the right partner.
Love Letters We've Received
"I wanted to share my joy that my partner and I are planning our wedding! It was so helpful that I was taking part in your 12-week Roadmap workshop when we met. I always dreamed of a love like this but never realized the work I needed to do to attract and nourish such a beautiful, fulfilling and healthy relationship. Thank you for creating this course to empower and support women like me.
– Fay, age 55
"Thank you so much for continuing to impart your wisdom to help women who love women find the love and connection we deserve. I will be forever grateful to you for helping me learn how to navigate the ups and downs in relationships since it led me to finding the great love and connection my partner Maria & I share. This year we will celebrate 4 years together!!!
– Mary Guiliani
"The Roadmap Journey, Wow!! Listening to the video from week #3 was very helpful in many ways. It's been a real pleasure and enormous help being part of CGA, doing the work, even in the short time I have been a member. Your focus, empathy, clarity, classes, The Roadmap, and the CGA community are bringing me closer to the life I yearn for. – D
"I found the quality of women in the class to be very high, and the laughter, vulnerability, curiosity and wisdom were all deeply appreciated. I learned so much, but know there’s more to process and take in so I am very much looking forward to taking this course again. It has given me a radically new sense of hope and possibility, as well as a tangible path to follow. – Helen
Why Would You Need A Roadmap to Dating & Love?
Lesbians are highly motivated to love, and to love well. Relationships really matter to us.
Every woman who loves women has navigated a challenging journey to get where you are right now. And whether you've been out for decades or are new to dating women, the desire to love and be loved can move mountains inside you. No matter how many hard experiences you've had, that desire doesn't die, because it is essential to who you are, and it is holy.
The Roadmap Course exists to support your lesbian desire
and help it find its full expression
in the happy, healthy, lasting love you've always wanted.
If finding the right partner has been hard for you, you're not alone.
The depth, intimacy and passion of lesbian relationships... also means we need more skills to listen to our brains as well as our hearts, date wisely, and keep our love strong.
Breakups can be shattering. If you've been through that once or a few times, it's easy to start mistrusting love, or women, or yourself.
Let's get real -- no one ever taught us how to find the right partner. So when you feel magic, soul connection and sparks, it's easy to dive deep and fast. You may have learned the hard way that early bliss doesn't equal long-term compatibility.
You might have started to wonder: "Why do relationships have to be so hard?" "Is it too late for me?" "Maybe I'm just not meant to have a relationship." "Is my 'picker' broken?" "Is the right woman for me even out there?"
The Roadmap Course will restore both your faith in love
and your realistic understanding of what long-term
compatibility really takes.
Here's The Roadmap Curriculum
(Preparation For Both Dating And Love)
Understand What A Healthy Relationship Is, And Open To It
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Learn the 5 key components for a healthy relationship
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Identify your blocks and old beliefs that don't serve you, and discover powerful tools to help you re-pattern your beliefs and your heart.
Build Your Emotional Intelligence
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Learn the key skills of emotional literacy and self-understanding.
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Practice recognizing your feelings and regulating your nervous system so you can work skillfully with your own emotional states.
Transform Fear
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Fear of being rejected... Fear of being loved... Fear of over-giving... Fear of receiving... Learn why we've all got so much fear, and how to meet it tenderly.
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Decode the hidden messages in your fears so they don't have to block you from dating or love.
Develop Your Dating Plan
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Whoever you are, wherever you live, whatever matters most to you... she is out there, and you can find her. We'll talk about how.
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Identify the dating pace and parameters that will actually help you create the love you want.
Build Self-Compassion and Self-Love
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Learn why having compassion for yourself is necessary for a healthy relationship with someone else -- and how to develop it.
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Harness the power of neuroplasticity to feel new levels of self-love, even if you never thought you could.
Clean Listening & Communication
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Learn and practice the key skills involved in speaking so she can hear you, and listening so she'll feel heard.
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Get the magic phrases to stop fights in their tracks and increase intimacy rather than conflict.
Attraction, Chemistry & Compatibility
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Learn Conscious Girlfriend's unique framework for understanding the three levels of compatibility (this alone may be worth the price of the course.)
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Understand how chemistry and attraction actually work for you, and how to make smart-for-your-heart choices.
Outsmart The Wiring That Leads to Heartbreak
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Learn how to stop yourself from bonding with Ms. Wrong, even when it feels so right.
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Understand how to distinguish red, yellow or green flags early in the dating process, and make wise choices.
Make Peace With The Past
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Empower yourself with a new lens of self-compassion and self-responsibility.
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Powerful experiential tools for bringing understanding and self-forgiveness to your past, so you can create a new present and future.
Self-Regulation As The Key To Healing
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Learn Conscious Girlfriend's unique 5-step process for getting to the root of triggers, instead of fighting or "stuffing it."
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Practice simple yet transformational tools for turning hard relationship moments into greater closeness.
Hone Your Relationship Vision
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Learn the biggest mistake women make in looking for a partner, and how to get granular around what actually matters most to you and why.
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Discover why you may have been seeking things that won't really make you happy, and how to refocus toward what will.
Date, Communicate, Assess & Create Love
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Take your new skills from the roadmap to the road... and actually embark on your conscious dating journey.
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How to listen to all the parts of yourself as you recognize real potential for love and go for the gold, not the foolsgold.
New to lesbian life? We've got you.
Late-in-life lesbians often tell us, "Wow, my heterosexual relationships never felt so intimate. But they were a whole lot easier."
Two women together do tend to have more emotional triggers, meaning we need even better communication, self-regulation and attachment skills to keep our love thriving. Fortunately, our community warmly welcomes "late bloomers," as well as bisexual, queer and sexually fluid women and adjacent non-binary people.
The Roadmap Course is based on cutting-edge neuroscience,
attachment theory and relationship research,
with lesbian++ knowledge & community you won't find elsewhere.
Not sure you're ready for a relationship? Great!
If you're still healing from a breakup, enjoying single life, or just don't want to wade into the deep end yet, it's still a great time to take the Roadmap class (especially since we only offer it once per year.) It'll help you gain clarity and get ready to get ready in your own right timing.
The Nitty-Gritty: What You'll Actually Get
The Roadmap Course includes:
❤ Live weekly 2-hour classes on Zoom for 12 weeks, so you can get your questions answered, apply the material to your own life, get to know other lesbians++ on similar journeys, and practice new skills.
All classes are recorded. Each class also includes small group breakout sessions, which are not recorded, so it's best if you can attend live. But, women have had life-changing results just from watching the recordings!
❤ 12 weeks of self-paced worksheets to take your process deeper and help you dive deep into the curriculum.
❤ Roadmap buddies and buddy groups for support, camaraderie and accountability.
❤ Private Facebook group just for this Roadmap Course, so you can deepen connections with your classmates.
Getting to practice new skills with Roadmap class members is a big part of what makes this "not just another online course" that'll sit on your digital shelf. Instead, it will become a whole new life you can live, breathe and integrate.
Where The Roadmap Class Can Lead
Imagine feeling good, really good, about your prospects for love. Knowing deep in your bones that of course she is out there, and that you've taken the steps to get ready, build the skills you need, learn how to find her, and create a strong, healthy relationship.
Sense your future self feeling clear, grounded and strong as you meet and communicate with women. Really knowing you can trust yourself, separate red flags from green, avoid jumping in too fast when there's chemistry, and assess who's actually right for you.
Feel the clarity that in your next relationship, you won't tie yourself into knots, give yourself up, or settle from the wrong person. You've finally got the skills to both find and be the right partner.
Imagine knowing that you've got a knowledgeable mentor and a whole team of like-minded, growth oriented lesbians++ supporting you, asking the tough questions and cheering you on.
Picture yourself meeting the woman of your dreams, taking time to know you're right for each other, then building a relationship better than any you've ever had, or perhaps even seen.
This has actually happened for many of our members.
Meet Some Past & Present Class Members
"This time, I choose to love with my full intelligence." Adrienne Rich
Pierce found community in the Academy, and then got help finding a partner, too.
After joining the Academy, Pierce went from feeling isolated to having a wide, deep network of friends. Then the Roadmap class empowered her to post an online profile, something she had never thought she would do. Now she and the woman she met online have been together for over a year. Pierce says, "What I learned in Conscious Girlfriend... is what has made us able to have this happy relationship."
As a late bloomer, Michelle came to the Academy for lesbian dating and relationship skills.
Michelle is a late-in-life lesbian who came out after a 23-year heterosexual marriage and raising three beautiful children. She says, "I've been dating my current partner for over a year now, and things are going very well. I attribute much of that to the skills I learned in the Conscious Girlfriend Academy."
Diana and Jen met as study buddies in the Academy, then fell in love.
Diana and Jen first connected by supporting each other with homework. As they recognized how compatible they were, their relationship blossomed. Now they say, "Not only did we find each other in Conscious Girlfriend, but we also got the tools to help us keep this going in a healthy way... And we also got a whole network, a community, a tribe of conscious friends." Diana adds, "I cannot tell you enough what a difference it has made in my life."
Roadmap Course Dates For 2024
We'll meet live on Zoom for 12 Saturdays, 10 a.m.-12 p.m. Pacific, starting January 20.
(That start time is 11 a.m. Mountain, 12:00 Central, 1:00 Eastern, and 6:00 p.m./18:00 GMT)
Class Meeting Dates:
❤ January 20 & 27
❤ February 3, 10, 17 & 24
❤ March 2, 9, 16, 23 & 30
❤ April 6
Have to miss one or more live classes? You'll get the recordings.
Want 12 months of support, instead of just 12 weeks? We've got options for you!
You Can Take The 12-Week Roadmap A La Carte,
Or Get A Full Year Of Support
With an Academy Membership
(It's a better deal!)
Academy Supporting
Membership
Yearly
*include the live 12-Week Roadmap Class
January 20-April 6, 2024
$149/month or $1097 for the whole year
(save $691!)
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Our best value and most comprehensive membership!
✔ Monthly intimate group coaching with Academy director Ruth Schwartz.
✔ Weekly live Roadmap groups 12 months of the year
✔ Includes all of the video recordings in our archives!
Academy
Community
Membership
Yearly
*includes the live 12-Week
Roadmap Class
January 20-April 6, 2024
$99/month or $697 for 12 months
(save $491!)
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✔ Weekly live Roadmap Connection groups 12 months of the year.
✔ Live and recorded versions of the 12-week Roadmap To Conscious Lesbian Dating & Lasting Love and dozens of other classes in our member archives.
✔ Build community with our buddy groups and private Facebook group.
❌ Does not include the Find True Love Online, Coming Out and Coming Home, Attachment Healing Intensive, or Lesbian Bed Life series
❌ Does not include monthly group coaching with Academy Director Ruth Schwartz
We Offer A Limited Number of Scholarships, including full scholarships for BIPOC. Click Here To Learn More.
Live Roadmap Class Only
(Full Payment)
$597
for just the
12-week class
(save $102 over payment plan price)
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✔ Weekly live classes for 12 weeks.
✔ Live and recorded version of the 12-week Roadmap To Conscious Lesbian Dating & Lasting Love.
✔ Build community with our buddy groups and private Facebook group.
❌ Does not include Dating, Love & Connection labs, which which meet weekly 12 months of the year.
❌ Does not include the following: Find True Love Online, Coming Out and Coming Home, Attachment Healing Intensive, Lesbian Bed Life series.
❌ Does not include monthly group coaching with Academy Director Ruth Schwartz.
Live Roadmap Class Only
(3-Pay Plan)
$233/month
for 3 months
($699 total)
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✔ Weekly live classes for 12 weeks.
✔ Live and recorded version of the 12-week Roadmap To Conscious Lesbian Dating & Lasting Love.
✔ Build community with our buddy groups and private Facebook group.
❌ Does not include Dating, Love & Connection labs, which meet weekly 12 months of the year.
❌ Does not include the following: Find True Love Online, Coming Out and Coming Home, Attachment Healing Intensive, Lesbian Bed Life series
❌ Does not include monthly group coaching with Academy Director Ruth Schwartz
We only offer this 12-week class once per year, so don't miss out!
The Roadmap To Conscious Lesbian Dating & Lasting Love is a Project of the Conscious Girlfriend Academy.
The Academy is the leading global resource supporting lesbians, and all women who love women,
to create the dating, love and sex life you want.
Our classes and book have reached women in 25 countries!
Meet Your Mentor, Academy Director Ruth L. Schwartz
- Author of eight books, including the Amazon bestseller Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love: A Roadmap To Finding the Right Partner & Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams
- Certified Somatica Method Sex & Intimacy Coach
- Trained with Gay & Katie Hendricks, authors of Conscious Loving
- Former professor at Ashland University, Mills College and California State University Fresno
- A proud member of the LGBTQ community since 1982
- Transparent, compassionate, and committed to walking her talk
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"I've invited Conscious Girlfriend Academy Director Ruth Schwartz back to my groups many times and even participated in Conscious Girlfriend Academy Coach Training because the CGA work is so FANTASTIC. I recommend the Academy every chance I get."
-- Jody Potiker, Founder, Lesbiangetaways.com and the international lesbian Meetup group So Many Women, So Little Time
Conscious Girlfriend is delighted to have our work recognized by a major international dating advice website! DatingAdvice.com lists us among their top queer dating experts, saying:
Supportive and fun community of lesbians... It’s open to single lesbians and couples and is designed to help you learn to create the kind of love life you're looking for.
"Lisa and I got married in October. My relationship with her is the healthiest and most secure I have ever felt. I’d like to think it’s due to the awareness you and the education of your content has given to me. Finding your special someone is possible past 50. I was starting to lose hope that I would ever find this kind of connection.
Thank you for all your support and life’s work to help people like me." -- Julie C.
Haven't Read The Book Yet?
Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love:
A Roadmap To Finding The Right Partner And
Creating The Relationship Of Your Dreams
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A Recap Of Some Of The Challenges We Help With
(How Many Of These Do You Face?)
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You're single, and you don't want to stay that way forever -- but you also don't want to get hurt.
You've got a good life on your own, but you know the right partner would make it even better. But past hurts have made you doubtful about finding the right person this time around. You know for sure you don't want more heartbreak.
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You're not sure how to date, or how to date women.
Many lesbians have never really "dated" -- we often feel a spark and dive right in. But you've reached a point in your life where you don't want to do that again -- and/or, you've come out more recently and need help understanding how dating works between women. You're ready to bring body, mind and heart together in conscious, intentional dating, so you can find lasting love.
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You've gone through a painful breakup, and need help healing.
Lesbian breakups can be shattering. You need help from people who understand that pain, who can help you understand what happened and reclaim your life.
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You're over 40 -- maybe over 50, or 60, or 70 -- and dating and love are different for you now.
Your needs and priorities have changed, and so has the world. You wonder if it's too late for you, but you also know yourself better than ever before, and want help finding a partner to be with for the rest of your life.
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You're overwhelmed by the process of beginning to date, or your dating hasn't worked out well.
You wonder: Where do I even start? Should I use online dating? What should I say in my profile? How can I know who's real and who's not? What are the "rules" of app messaging and dating? How can I keep my heart safe?
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You'd welcome having more growth-oriented lesbian friends.
It's a straight world out there. You've got room in your life for more lesbian, bi and queer friends who really "get" you, who see and value you as you are, and can support your growth.
Here's How The Academy Helps:
World-class LGBTQ+ mentorship.
Supportive like-minded community.
Lesbian-centric live classes & on-demand recorded classes.
Learn and practice the dating & relationship skills you need.
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