The problem is that
There is a lot of information out there about “finding” the one or “avoiding” the wrong one, but not enough about actually “becoming” the right person. What they need now is a program that will actually work ON them, challenge them, change them, and better prepare them for the relationship/marriage they want.
These events make a difference, but there is only so much they can learn (and retain) with a few hours of teaching. To make matters worse, most of these events are not recorded, so even if they are longer, there is no access to the content they learned for future reference.
They leave these events with emotions high and inspired by the content. But after a few days, you realize they didn't change. There wasn't an element of "practical application".
Premarital counseling is an absolute must. But for most people/couples, they are getting it when things have already progressed so far that it’s not impactful, or they get it but it is so short that it doesn't really deal with issues, or they get it and it is so light that it is merely a formality.
Most of the time, even when both people in a relationship want it to work, the reality is that they have had years of separate preparation for relationships/marriage. They need something that helps them get on the same page about the things that matter in their relationship.
It’s not always easy to create safe spaces to have conversations around critical things that will make or break a Godly relationship/marriage. Sex, family background, financial mindset, communication skills, attraction, expectations, God’s role and so on.
Practical is out there. Godly is out there. Practical and Godly is the ideal and unfortunately, that is hard to find.
Before marriage, I was there. I was so confident because I was “a church guy”.
But I realized that I was merely projecting the image of who I “aspired” to be, not who I actually was.
This is important work for your ministry
These are important outcomes they leave with:
They will learn what it takes to position themselves to operate in the Grace of God, articulate the values that drive them, and get closure and healing from past relationships.
They not only develop spiritual, financial, relational and communication tools, they also develop a clear vision for marriage.
They become better equipped to fight spiritual battles in marriage.
They have a better understanding of putrity and are better prepared to handle temptation.
introducing
A Bible based, transformative self paced course (with lifetime access) on what they need to learn, heal and deal with to be ready for (and have) the fulfilling marriage they really want.
A biblical and practical approach to relationships, courtship, choosing a spouse, and transitioning into marriage
The THINKING You Bring
The BROKEN SELF You Bring
The TOOLS You Bring
The GRACE You Bring
Here is what they get inside!
Module 1: The THINKING You Bring
Principles You BOTH Need To Understand
The goal is to understand deep/ foundational principles and thought processes people bring into marriage that can make or break a marriage. Here, they:
Learn the 5 Perspectives that help set the right foundation for realistic expectations of love and marriage
Understand the flawed processes of selection and the reasons why otherwise nice people end up in the wrong marriages
Get an expanded view on The Three Lusts, how they function (sometimes AT WILL) in marriage and in life, and learn how to stop them from becoming liabilities in marriage.
Understand God’s view vs. the world view of marriage and the (often ignored) elements in God’s original plan (+how to apply them in marriage)
Module 2: The BROKEN SELF You Bring
What You BOTH Need To Heal
The goal is to emerge having dealt with past conscious and unconscious pain or wrong environmental conditioning.
God’s standards for their lives may have been broken in their past. Here, they find and HEAL them.
Step by step guide to evaluate the “Family of Origin” issues we often carry into life and marriage. They will learn how those issues show up in marriage and how they relate to the standard of Christ in marriage.
The 6 relationship pillars based on your family of origin
A Prayer guide that will help them pray over the broken standards in their lives.
The 5 pains and fears of broken relationships. How they can affect us in marriage
Deal with and get more closure on broken relationships (Most people don't realize they need it)
The true hidden beliefs about themselves and the opposite sex (And how these beliefs affect our relationships)
Module 3: The TOOLS You Bring
What You BOTH Need To Learn
The goal is to learn and acquire important capabilities that enable the relationship and marriage to not only work...but THRIVE. This is about:
Learning the critical spiritual tools that two people should both bring into marriage and how to start acquiring them now, in order to have the 3 - cord marriage we all talk about
Learning what it REALLY means to be financially prepared for marriage, identifying what a toxic relationship with money looks like and getting tools to evaluate themselves.
Using the Bible, learn the two relational tools that are rarely ever talked about at relationship events but are crucial to relationship and marriage survival..and how to get them
The 3 communication tools that are making and breaking even Christian relationships and marriages
Module 4: The VALUES & EXPECTATIONS You Bring
Who Are You and What Do You REALLY Want?
The goal is for them to (a) Discover the values that drive them as a person so that they are able to communicate them to their significant others (b) Emerge having clearer, more grounded expectations of their spouse and (c) Emerge with a clear purpose and mission for their marriage. Here, they learn:
How to identify and articulate their own core values so that they can properly communicate them to someone else
The power of a Marriage Mission Statement and a step by step formula for writing one.
How to do away with superficial relationship “lists”, and get a step by step guide to prayerfully write a list that is actually meaningful to them and customized for them.
4 critical things they need to do with their new list and their Marriage Mission Statement
Module 5: The SEX & INTIMACY NEEDS You Bring
Managing Your Intimacy Needs as a Believer
The goal of this module is to offer some new perspectives on the underlying issues that affect our sexual thinking, our responsibility when it comes to premarital sex, dealing with temptation, our feelings of guilt when we are tempted, and ultimately our desire to do right by God in the area of sex before and after marriage. They dive deep into:
3 Critical lessons on sex that starts affecting us as a single and transitions with us into marriage
5 critical perspectives on “waiting” that you probably never heard before (But will set the tone for you in marriage)
7 practical ways and perspectives that will immediately help you do better at keeping sexual temptation at bay (A few of them will surprise you)
2 simple but important things to keep in mind when dealing with guilt and the weight of sexual sin in relationships.
Module 6: The GRACE You Bring
Working by Grace
The goal of this module is to understand the role of the grace of God, position the marriage to receive the grace of God (even before it starts), and guide them on the path to confirmation.
How to position their marriage to receive and function in the grace of God....even before the marriage starts, and well into it.
Confirmation: The paralyzing things that hide behind "confirmation"
The signs of God’s confirmation and how to apply that on their relationship
What confirmation IS and is NOT
How exactly could you apply this in your ministry?
There are several ways you can apply this as a complement to everything you are already doing to care for your singles, young adults, and newly weds.
This actually doesn't take away your oversight, it actually enhances it!
For pre-marital counseling
Book studies and informal sessions are great, but this can serve as a much needed structured program. You can then schedule follow-up sessions with participants to debrief each module, and further counsel. This complements what you are already doing.
For reaching new people
The fact is that there are many people who need your church but are not drawn by your Sunday Service. This could be the exact opportunity they need: A 6-8 week relationship course and meetup, where they meet others just like them. Your young adults and singles will actually tell their friends about this.
To connect better with them
It can be hard to develop meaningful connections with young adults. This is a great way to create opportunities for deeper connection using the context of relationships. They take the course, you (or someone you trust) facilitates debrief sessions to talk about what they are learning and how they are growing.
For singles, Young Adults or Newlywed groups
You roll this out as a group study. Your young adults, singles/ newlyweds get to study this together, meet often to discuss and share learnings, and you can appoint a facilitator(s)/minister over the program.
Created and Facilitated by Pastor Tobi Atte
Pastor Tobi (along with his wife Bukky), pastors Ignite Church NYC, a church plant of The Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG).
He is also the founder and writer behind www.IJustMetMe.com
He continues to speak & minister at conferences on relationships, personal development, faith, and marriage.
He is also the creator of the Life On Track - A powerful self-paced vision session to create a God-anchored vision for your life, create the mission areas that drive it, and create the structure in your life that will make it a reality.
Everything they need to be successful is inside!
Any Device
No matter where you are or what device they are on, they can be immersed in the course.
So whether they are on the road, in the comfort of their homes, or in a group setting, they can keep learning, growing and transforming themselves.
They can go at their own pace
Ideally, this course will take them about 6-8 weeks. But since they have extended access to the content, they can take longer to complete it. It's up to you. It's up to them. They can go at their own pace.
Transcripts, worksheets and excercises!
Yes. They get transcripts of each lesson so if they just want to download and read, they can do that.
Also, deep introspective worksheets are sprinkled throughout the course to guide them from information to transformation, and make things really practical.
What's even better? The worksheets are editable PDFs so they can download and fill in right on their devices and save.
Lesson Audio
With access to the audio, course members can take Ready For Forever anywhere with them.
They have their own little audio library of the entire course that they listen to wherever they are, and on any device!
30 DAY MONEY BACK GUARANTEE!
I am so convinced that they will get so much value out of this course, that I am offering a 30-day money back guarantee. Yup.
If after 30 days, they feel like they have not gotten any value out of this course, send an email and your money will be refunded. It's that simple.
This program was prayerfully and professionally developed, and the last thing that should get in the way of kingdom work, is value and money.
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The structured program with what they need to learn, heal, and deal with in order to have the relationship and marriage they want
6 modules and over 27 lessons …...(Value $597)
Lesson audio downloads……….......(Value $97)
Lifetime access (Becoming yearly soon!)....(Value $197)
Lesson transcripts & worksheets....(Value $97)
Total Value: $988
For group registration below, it is recommended to use a group admin email (e.g. a church email) so that the receipt can be sent there. There will be an opportunity to add your own personal details to get access later. If there is no such email, no worries :o)
3 - 10 Licenses
$45.99/Person
(or 2 monthly payments of $24.50/person)
You can select the exact quantity at checkout
11 - 20 Licenses
$42.99/Person
(or 2 monthly payments of $22.99/person)
You can select the exact quantity at checkout
21- 60 Licenses
$40/Person
(or 2 monthly payments of $21.50/person)
You can select the exact quantity at checkout
Church/Group License (100ppl
$2400
(Or 2 payments of $1200)
You will be provided a voucher and a link.
(For more people, also email below)
Live Edition (Live-Accelerated)
Fri-Sat Conference
you asked
(...and these are great questions)
Q.We don't have much funding. Can we do a payment plan?
Absolutely. You have the option for a convenient payment plan even though your singles will have access to the course right away.
Q. Does this program have to be or take exactly six weeks to complete?
Nope. In fact, you can (for example) structure the program for your singles to be a 12 week program, and meet every 2 weeks to facilitate discussions and discuss the takeaways etc. So…NO. It does not have to be 6 weeks. It can be longer and it can be a little shorter
Q. Am I assured that what they will learn is scriptural?
This is a VITAL question. A few things to keep in mind:
1. This course was developed based on the scriptures…to create something God can be proud of. Something that will not only help people prepare for a marriage that honors God but one that will help people get closer to God now!
2. The program facilitator you select at your church/group (If different from you) will have access to the course so you (or they) will always be carried along and there will be full accountability.
Q. What is the age range for this program?
It is recommended that they are at least 18 years old. That’s about it. Whether they are single, dating, courting or even newly married, they can and should take this.
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