Has your adult child walked away from you or the family, or perhaps asked for some space? This is undoubtedly a challenging time, and the feelings of grief and confusion can be overwhelming.

But it’s crucial to remember: you are not powerless.

Here are some steps to help you navigate this difficult period with grace and inner strength.

1. Acceptance of Reality

The first step in this journey is acceptance. It’s important to recognize and accept the current reality of your situation. Denying what’s happening won’t change it; instead, it may prolong your pain. When I went through a similar experience with my daughter, it wasn’t until I accepted the reality of our situation that I began to find peace.

Remember, acceptance does not mean you’re resigning yourself to this state forever. It simply acknowledges what is true today. This could very well be a season of estrangement rather than a permanent state. Many mothers find that hope is often overshadowed by a sense of finality, but it’s essential to allow yourself the possibility that reconciliation may come in time.

Start journaling your thoughts and feelings. Set a timer for 10 or 15 minutes, grab a pen and paper, and let your emotions flow. You don’t have to worry about neat handwriting or coherent sentences. This process can serve as a crucial outlet for your grief, confusion, and anger.

2. Seek Support

Navigating estrangement can feel isolating, but you don’t have to do it alone. While you may have trusted friends or family members to lean on, consider seeking support from others who understand your situation. Connecting with a support group or community of mothers facing similar challenges can provide comfort, encouragement, and a sense of belonging.

If you’re interested in personalized support, I offer discovery calls that allow us to connect for 30 minutes. This is a consultation to explore your needs and whether my services might be a good fit for you.

3. Manage Ruminating Thoughts

As you process your feelings, be aware of the ruminating thoughts that can easily take hold and amplify feelings of hopelessness. It’s essential to develop strategies to manage these invasive thoughts. Think of them as an invasive species that can disrupt your mental well-being.

Strategies:

• Prayer or Meditation: For many, prayer is a source of strength and comfort. Remember that your creator loves your child just as much, if not more, than you do. Allow yourself time each day to reflect on your feelings, whether through prayer, meditation, or journaling.
• Focus on Positivity: Surround yourself with positive influences and engage in activities that uplift you. Look forward, not backward. By focusing on your own life and the people who support you, you can find a path toward healing.

Navigating estrangement from your adult child is undoubtedly a complex journey filled with emotional turmoil.

But by accepting reality, seeking support, and managing your thoughts, you can begin to find your strength and grace in this difficult time.

Remember, you are not alone, and there is hope for the future.