MakeOver Your Marriage Plan

Rachael is...

...a certified Marriage Coach for Women, a former divorce attorney, a wife and mother of six amazing kids.

She began her work as a coach in 2014, helping clients with health, fitness, and business.

While coaching these clients, she found they needed the most help in their relationships to deal with marriage problems, parenting, and an overall lack of happiness.

She pivoted into Marriage Coaching for Women shortly after she fixed her own marriage using the same techniques she uses today with clients.

THE PROBLEM???

Would you believe me if I told you I spent the first 15 out of my 20 years of marriage completely miserable?

And, honestly, who could blame me?

Though I had willingly chosen this man as my life partner, we lived in a horrible cycle of fight, silent treatment, make up, and then fight all over again. Despite having six wonderful children together, we both threatened divorce about every other month.

To fix this problem, we tried counseling, talking and communicating, and even living apart for a while.

Nothing helped.

There’s an entire bank of memories from my life - birthday parties, holidays, vacations - which are permanently tarnished by fights that made me feel like I was living in a predictable, waking nightmare.

And inside my mind, I blamed him for EVERYTHING.

To me, he was an inconsiderate jerk. He was cruel, emotionally abusive, and controlling me with money.

On New Year’s Eve 2019, a fun evening I had planned for my family turned into a night alone as I lay in bed, bitter that my husband and children weren’t fully appreciating the experience I had put together for them.

In the dark, I said to myself, “There has to be more to life than this,” and that was when I took back my power to find it.

Immediately, I threw out all the old ways I had been interacting with my husband.

I stopped making him submit to long conversations where we verbally processed every feeling, every slight, every transgression … because none of that bullshit [alt: nonsense] mattered.

What actually mattered was how I was making myself feel. I stopped focusing on what he was doing and saying that caused me to believe I was a victim and flipped the script.

I realized - despite how well I believed I knew him - I couldn’t actually read his mind, and I stopped projecting what I thought were his intentions and instead focused on minding my own reactions.

And I ended up transforming the dynamic of our relationship.

Fast-forward to today, and we’re finally that happily married couple I always wanted us to be. We still fight sometimes, but the cycle ends there.

Here’s what you need to know about your marriage:

You’re not a victim unless you choose to be.

Yep, I said it. I’m not afraid to use tough love.

When I work with clients who are constantly fighting with their spouse, I help them focus on building strength and resilience in themselves - because you cannot change or work on someone else, ever.

Your growth is paramount to me, it will help you better navigate your marriage … or allow you to leave with confidence if that’s what you need to do.

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THE RESULT???

Now that my marriage is healthy, we enjoy living as a family on a lake and like to spend as much time as possible sitting together in the summer sun. We love eating ice cream and making family memories that we’re all going to look back on with fondness in the years to come.

This existence I have now was but a tiny speck of hope that I held onto when the fights never seemed to end. I am so grateful that I had the courage to take an honest look at myself and the fortitude to fight (in a good way) to save my marriage.

It’s my mission to help you build strength and resilience so you can fix your marriage - or feel amazing leaving it.

IT IS POSSIBLE FOR YOU TOO!!!

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