Motherhood, with its joys and challenges, often presents unexpected trials that test our strength and resilience. Today, I invite you to join me on a journey through the wisdom I've gained, lessons learned the hard way, particularly tailored for moms grappling with the painful turmoil of estrangement. This exploration promises transformative insights into healing, self-discovery, and navigating the complexities of strained relationships.

1. Take Care of Yourself First:

The paramount lesson, often overlooked in the chaotic whirlwind of life, is the absolute necessity of prioritizing self-care. It extends beyond the conventional understanding of massages, exercise, and balanced nutrition. The truth is, if you don't take care of yourself, your entire well-being, including mental and physical health, risks falling apart. I've witnessed this firsthand while coaching other moms through their struggles. It's not selfish; it's a fundamental aspect of maintaining resilience. Seek a supportive network and embrace self-care practices that resonate with your unique needs.

2. Trust God:

While practical aspects are undeniably vital, cultivating trust in a higher power is equally significant. Even when faced with seemingly insurmountable challenges, trusting that God will ultimately work things out for good is a foundational belief. I understand that during such trying times, it may feel like your connection with God is strained. However, maintaining an honest and open relationship with Him, expressing your anger or frustration, is crucial. In a recent video, I delved into the spiritual warfare aspect of estrangement, emphasizing that God is always ready to hear your heart. Embrace this relationship as a source of strength and guidance.

3. Stay in Your Own Lane:

Learning to stay in your own lane is a powerful lesson that, when mastered, can bring a sense of peace and understanding. It involves recognizing that you cannot control another human being, even if that person is your adult child. Resist the urge to shoulder unnecessary responsibilities, emotions, and guilt that aren't yours to bear. Your primary responsibility is to stay in your own lane, allowing your child the space to walk through their journey, learn from their mistakes, and make their own choices.

4. Don't Numb Your Pain:

One of the common pitfalls in facing estrangement is the temptation to numb the pain through various coping mechanisms. However, numbing your pain equals numbing your joy, and the consequences can be profound. Substance abuse, emotional avoidance, or other unhealthy coping strategies might provide temporary relief but often lead to chaos, addiction, and compromised health. Instead of seeking escape, confront your pain head-on. Allow yourself to experience the full spectrum of emotions, understanding that both highs and lows are part of the healing process.

These four foundational lessons represent just the beginning of a transformative journey through the storm of estrangement. Embracing self-care, trusting in a higher power, staying in your own lane, and confronting pain are essential steps toward healing and resilience. In subsequent discussions, we'll delve deeper into more lessons learned on this challenging path. May these insights bless and guide you through the complexities of estrangement. God bless.