How I make my life better than 99% of people.

 

I spend a lot of time alone.

 

I usually dedicate my days to:

 

• Creation (writing these letters, recording new podcast episodes, preparing new online courses or Instagram content)

 

• Exploration (sitting with questions I have, observations I make, consuming content or courses I’ve bought or learning new skills)

 

• Work (teaching classes, training my clients in the gym or creating space through my Self-love sessions)

 

• Rest (looking after my body, my mind and my heart or following my desires and joy)

 

It’s only when I have conversations with friends, family or other people that I get reminded of how different my life is from everyone else.

 

Most people live a life where almost all their time is dedicated to a job that feels like work.

 

• You hate Mondays.
• You only look forward to the weekend.
• You repeat the same tasks every day.
• You earn the same income every month.
• You despise the people you have to work with.
• Your job negatively affects your mental and physical health.

 

Society only presents you with one way to set up your life:

 

• Go to school
• Get a job
• Retire

 

So you follow that exact path, never questioning if that is the way you want to spend the next 40 years of your life or if other paths could lead you to something (waaaay) better.

 

 

Through last week’s letter, we came to realise how rare the present moment is.

 

You only get to experience the Now once.

 

The same principle applies to the concept of life.

 

You only get to live your life once, and there is only one person who can be you.

 

Do you realise how unique and precious this very opportunity of life even is?

 

Now, zoom out.

 

See yourself going through another frustrating 1500 Mondays.

 

See yourself repeating the same tasks for another 30 years.

 

Visualise the state of your future mental and physical health if you keep staying in this negative and toxic environment.

 

Do you really think this is what you were meant to do with your life?

 

If you hate your Mondays now, I can promise you that it will only get worse as the months and the years pass.

 

With time, this growing sense of powerlessness, disappointment and frustration you have already started feeling will leak into your relationships, your personal joy and attitude you have towards life.

 

So it’s time you take yourself a bit more seriously and give yourself the tools and opportunities to start walking your own path, because it is possible.

 

Observe – question – detach – explore.

 

Two years ago, I left my life and partner in London to come back to my home country, Switzerland.

 

At that time, I had already spent time getting to know myself and what I expected out of my life. Now it was time to make it all happen.

 

I found a part-time job in a gym and currently still work there for about 10 hours per week.

 

Since I’ve been back in Switzerland, I have been able to grow my mental and physical health business in the exact direction I wanted:

 

I reduced my number of working hours by half compared to the average employee, but earn more than the average Swiss salary.

 

I am still far from the end goal and standard of life I have set up for my future self, but I live much better than most people whilst putting in less time than everyone else.

 

This leaves me with plenty of time to create, explore and rest which are very important aspects of my life and business.

 

(now you understand why you see me on my yoga mat on Instagram on a Wednesday afternoon ;)

 

Let’s go back to the diamond example I gave in last week’s letter.

 

Diamonds are expensive and highly valuable because they are rare.

 

The value of anything expensive comes down to its uniqueness and rarity.

 

The salary your boss pays you every month is representative of the value of the job you do.

 

The value of the job you do increases according to the amount of people who can do that job (remember, the rarer something is, the more it costs.)

 

If you do a job most people can do you will get paid very little because you are easily replaceable.

 

The value of what you do is therefore not worth much and this will be reflected by your salary.

 

Now let’s take Beyoncé for example.

 

The reason why she gets paid millions for one single show that lasts 2-3 hours is that she leveraged what is unique about her and therefore highly valuable because of its uniqueness:

 

Her voice.

 

By now, a bell should ring in your head.

 

We realised this together just a couple of minutes ago:

 

“You only get to live your life once, and there is only one person who can be you.”

 

In exchange for you following the path society has presented you with, you sacrificed who you are.

 

You conditioned yourself into what your environment wanted you to be, instead of exploring and seeing the immense value that lies in being yourself.

 

Beyoncé found the courage to create her own path, saw tremendous value in her singing ability and decided to convince the world of it.

 

You, on the contrary, haven’t explored and leveraged what is unique about you yet:

 

• Your unique story
• Your unique gifts and talents
• Your unique curiosity and interest
• Your unique approach and understanding of life

 

The real version of you is your answer to a life you can’t even think of.

 

A reality where you get paid for simply being yourself.

 

Because only you can do what you are able to do. If you leverage that, you have as much value as Beyoncé has.

 

Most people wonder why I feel so at peace, present and stressless.

 

Now you have your answer.

 

Because I create most of my income simply by expressing who I am and because I spend most of my time doing what brings me the ultimate level of excitement and joy.

 

I know that you have moments where you wonder if that’s what life is about.

 

There must be more, right?

 

Yes. You are absolutely right.

 

And the first step towards it, is realising that it is also possible for you.

 

Once you do, here is what I want you to do:

 

1. Observe

 

We can’t change what we are not aware of.

 

Right now, you don’t understand the concept of who you are.

• The beliefs that hold you back

 

• The mechanisms behind the way you think and how you act.

 

• The unconscious motivations that drive your self-sabotaging behavior.

 

• The emotional reactions that are a by-product of layers of pain you never acknowledged.

 

You don’t see yourself clearly yet so you use people’s perception of you to define your worth and your value.

 

That’s why you feel amazing about yourself if you receive a compliment but want to hide or disappear every time someone says something negative about you.

 

From now on, I want you to start observing yourself from a completely objective perspective.

• Observe the things that catch your interest and curiosity

 

• Observe the inner dialogue that is happening in your head

 

• Observe the different actions you take as you go through your day

 

• Observe how mean or nice you are to the people you interact with

 

• Observe how people feel and behave when they are in your company

 

• Observe the different emotional states and reactions you feel as the day passes by

 

Observe but don’t judge. We are just here to collect information about who this very being you embody every day is.

 

2. Question

 

You are the product of your conditioning. If you were born on the other side of the planet, you wouldn’t be the person you are now, because you would’ve been conditioned differently.

 

Who you have been conditioned into is not who you are.

 

That conditioning works like an invisible limit and therefore restricts your ability to perceive all the opportunities for growth and expansion that are around you.

 

To move onto the next step of this process you have to question the origin and purpose behind the belief systems you hold and the conditioning that dictates the way you live your life.

 

You will come to realise that most of the beliefs you hold don’t come from you.

 

You unconsciously adopt them (from your parents, school, and society) and they are actually the ones preventing you from becoming who you truly are.

 

I guide you through all these steps in my Self-Love course CHOOSING ME which launches in a couple of days. The course gives you the ability to learn and implement in 5 weeks what I have realised through experience, trial and error in the last 5 years.

 

This level of self-love, self-worth and self-respect I’ve built is what has allowed me to create the good life I am currently living.

 

If you want to detach from all that conditioning and create your own path and way better future than what society has set you up with instead, enroll here.

 

3. Detach

 

You are now leaving the path of society to explore and create your own.

 

Questioning your beliefs made you realise that you have been living a life on autopilot comforted by the mass that goes through the same life dissatisfaction as you do.

 

This is probably the place where things get really uncomfortable because everything and everyone around you will convince you to get back to your routine and average life.

 

A lot of courage will be required to detach from the opinions, expectations and pressure of the world, to choose yourself instead.

 

But if you do push through, you will come out the other side where something completely unknown awaits:

 

Freedom.

 

4. Explore

 

A free life is a very powerful life. It’s a life full of responsibilities because you are now in full control of your story.

 

• You take responsibility for your income
• You take responsibility for what you want to do with your time
• You take responsibility for your health and how good or bad you feel in your body
• You take responsibility for the positive and negative outcomes of your decisions and actions

 

It will take you a couple of years to get yourself there.

 

But if you do not start now, this life will definitely not be your reality in the next years.

 

Instead, you will be going back to more shitty Mondays.

 

You are part of something that is immensely vast.

 

The only limit there is to the reality you can explore is death.

 

Since you are reading these lines, I assume you are not dead yet, so why have you stopped exploring everything life has to offer?

 

Why are you okay with going back to Mondays you hate?

 

Why do you keep sacrificing your uniqueness for a job a hundred other people can do and a salary that limits what you can experience?

 

In next week’s letter, we will go through what I’ve done to value my time and invest it in myself instead of wasting it on people, places and situations who weren’t serving the life I was building for myself.

 

So make sure you subscribe to the newsletter if you aren’t on the list yet, and I will see you in next week’s letter.

 

Until then, take care.

 

Oli