If I had one wish for you as a mom, it would be to encourage you to take back control of your own life. It's time. Now. Literally. Don't do what I did and wait so many years before you actually start taking care of yourself.

It’s crucial to start focusing on four key areas that can transform your life and help you regain your sense of self. These are recognizing patterns, living your life, building a support system, and personal growth. Let’s delve into each of these areas.

1. Recognizing Patterns

Think about some past experiences or even current ones where you feel overwhelmed by the dynamics you’re dealing with. Consider the specific behaviors or situations that trigger feelings of powerlessness in your life. It could be recurring arguments or emotional manipulation from your estranged child.

Recognizing these patterns is the first step towards awareness. When you become aware of the cycle of emotions that lead to behaviors controlling you, you can start to regain control over your life. Patterns are powerful, and identifying them can be liberating.

2. Live Your Life

Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation. This isn’t just a suggestion; it’s a necessity. Activating your parasympathetic nervous system, which calms you down, is essential to keep you out of constant fight-or-flight mode.

Living your life means prioritizing your own needs and taking deliberate steps to nurture yourself emotionally, physically, and spiritually. For those ready to take a step further, consider coaching. If you're feeling lost on the path of estrangement, a discovery call with me can provide guidance and support tailored to your needs.

3. Build a Support System

One reason I emphasize the importance of a support system is that I didn't have one. Now, I facilitate a group coaching program where amazing moms gather weekly. They not only learn from me but from each other, providing empathy, understanding, practical advice, and validation.

This communal support alleviates the isolation that many moms feel during estrangement. Building a support system is a proactive step towards healing and reclaiming your sense of self.

4. Personal Growth

What goals are you setting for yourself? It might seem daunting to think about goals right now, but personal growth is crucial for reclaiming your life. Consider what new skills you could learn, whether it’s going back to school, learning a trade, or taking an art or photography class.

Incorporating healthier relationships and engaging in new activities can give you a renewed sense of purpose. Personal growth provides a fresh perspective and helps you move forward.

Reflecting on my own journey, I didn’t have a support system or a coach. I had a wonderful therapist who helped me tremendously, but she couldn’t fully relate to my experience. If you need therapy, absolutely seek it out. But if you’re looking for a coach to set goals with you and encourage actionable steps, I’m here for you.

Taking back control of your life starts with recognizing patterns, engaging in activities that bring joy, building a supportive community, and pursuing personal growth. These steps are essential for your emotional resilience and overall well-being.

If you’re ready to explore coaching, I invite you to schedule a discovery call with me. In the meantime, take care of yourself and remember that you deserve joy and fulfillment.

I look forward to supporting you on this journey. God bless.