WHAT YOU CAN CONTROL
by Yvonne | Dec 29, 2019 | Business
SUCCESS IS NOT SOMETHING THAT HAPPENS TO YOU;
IT'S SOMETHING THAT HAPPENS BECAUSE OF YOU AND BECAUSE OF THE ACTIONS YOU TAKE.
People who refuse to take responsibility generally don’t do well at taking much action and subsequently don’t do well in the game of success.
Successful people accept very high levels of accountability for creating and having success for themselves – and even for failing to do so.
Successful people hate the blame game and know that it is better to make something happen – good or bad – than to have it happen to you.
There is a great model I teach in coaching sessions and in the training room and that is Above the line – Below the line.
The basis of it is there are those people who play above the line choose to be
1. Ownership – Take ownership of the good and the bad.
2. Accountable – Be accountable to themselves and others.
3. Response-able – Make better decisions in the moment.
This is where you are a true leader and live victoriously.
Those who play below the line live in victim mode full of:
1. Blame – It’s everyone else’s fault not theirs
2. Excuses – Shirk any responsibility
3. Denial – Refuse to accept the situation
You can’t control what happens to you however YOU can control how you respond and move forward.
When you assume and increase your responsibility for the situations you will probably come up with a solution going forward that serves you better and help you build on success.
Whether you own a business or lead a team you can dramatically improve the outcome by adopting an above the line mentality.
Everyone has moments that feel below the line worthy – key is to recognise it and own how you are feeling.
If you want to be angry, pissed off, upset, annoyed and overwhelmed… feel into it. It’s very powerful to explore deeper as to why you feel a certain way.
However come from the experience of owning your feelings rather than blaming someone/something for them.
You then have the power and ability to shift it once you have processed it as you aren’t the victim.
Otherwise you will be trapped in a vicious cycle and the monkey chatter (what I call internal dialogue) goes off the chart and zaps up a lot of your energy and resources. Robbing you of the most precious gift we all have – TIME.
As the year is close to finishing and the new one approaches fast – spend some time asking yourself what needs to change for you to have a momentous 2020.
Guarantee if you adopt more above the line behaviours and thoughts you will achieve all that you desire and more.
If there is anything more I can help you with in understanding this model more reach out and email me yvonne@yvonnehilsz.com
Have a prosperous end of the year
Yvonne
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