The Mental Offload

So, tell me again why smart, high-achieving women with kids are playing second fiddle in their own life?

(While men continue to get prioritized.)

At the start of the Covid pandemic, I hopped onto a Mom’s group and started a thread to see how other moms were coping. I was hoping for some practical advice or empathy about the demands of working full time and coordinating online schooling for two young children.

But it turned out nearly every single Mom had set up their family life to prioritize their husband.

Some of the things I read:

"My husband earns more, so his job takes priority."
"I earn more but my job has more flexibility."
"My husband's been at his job longer and has more of a team, so he needs to be available."
"My husband has only just started his job, so he needs to build his credibility."

It didn't seem to matter what the circumstances were, the result was always the same: women getting the proverbial short end of the stick.

Every. Damn. Time.

If the glass ceiling is hitting us in the face in our own homes, how can we expect to achieve our full potential anywhere outside of it?

LET'S OFFLOAD

Sound familiar?

The thing is, I get these statements. They are the voice of women who want to do the best for their kids and family. It makes sense, right?

Except it was always at the expense of the woman’s time and energy, never the men. These were smart women with demanding jobs who were now also facing fractured workdays, a career that took second place and the mental load of coordinating the whole damn show.

Oh, and don’t forget to smile!

Highway to burnout

The result was women lying awake at night feeling stressed, overwhelmed and more worried than ever about their kids and job.

And that’s normal for women. We’re taught to put our family first, even if it means running our physical and mental health into the ground.

I want to show you that it is possible to have a great job and be an awesome Mom without carrying the extra load.

LET'S OFFLOAD TOGETHER