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February 24, 2022

Take Responsibility

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"I must say to myself that I ruined myself, and that nobody

great or small can be ruined except by his own hand." ~Oscar Wilde

Whatever has happened to you in your life, the bottom line is that you are ultimately responsible. If you are looking for happiness and success in your personal and professional life, you must embrace this principle. When things go wrong in your life, there is always a temptation to blame others for your misfortunes, but that won’t help you find happiness in your life.

If anything, it will ultimately worsen the situation and will end up sinking you into further irresponsibility. Taking responsibility for your actions, choices, and direction in life will be the most powerful and intelligent way that you can deal with the issues you face in life. The moment you stop taking responsibility, the perspective you have on life will shift, and more often than not, you will start to see yourself as a failure because you’ve allowed yourself to blame others for your problems.

One of the most critical components that you need to accept is that you are in charge of your life, and no one else. It doesn’t matter how hard you try and convince the people around you that the events currently happening in your life aren’t the consequence of your actions, you will still need to go through them and face the consequences as they come. If you want to be able to remain in control and handle the situations you face with resolve and determination, you will need to do the following:

Stop Placing Blame on Others: Whether you are by yourself or in a group with others, you need to listen to yourself as you talk. Work to eliminate blame and excuses in your speech. The more you continue to play the blame speech in your mind, the more likely you will try to shift responsibility to others.

Seriously Consider Feedback: There will be times when you won’t be able to hear your voice as you speak with other people. This is why accepting feedback from others is critical to your emotional intelligence. Some of the people that you talk to might be observant and honest enough to tell you about your habit of shifting blame to others. If you take this kind of feedback seriously, it can help to change you and your perception of life. It is almost natural for us to dissent to feedback that doesn’t favor us. The more you reject other people’s observations, the more likely you will continue with your irresponsible tendencies to your own detriment.

Plan Your Life: Your life consists of the sum total of all the plans, decisions, and courses of action that you take on a daily basis. By putting a plan in place of how you want your life to run, you can successfully take control of your future and eliminate the temptation of blaming others for things that you are responsible for. Your plan should be broken down into achievable goals that you can measure your progress on.

Recognizing Your Choices: You have an overall choice of how you are going to respond in any given situation. This is irrespective of the severity of the circumstances. It is possible to be locked away in prison and still maintain your mental sanity. You have the option to focus on something more positive than the situation you are currently in. This will help you free your emotions and, to a more significant extent, your entire being.

When you take complete responsibility for your life, you experience control and joy.

Despite the circumstances, you are able to make better decisions and choices because you completely understand that you, and only you, are responsible for the outcome of your choices.
Even when events happen that aren’t within your control, you have the power to determine how you will react to those events.

You can either make a disaster out of a situation or use the challenges in your life as a ladder to reach a higher level.