APRIL 17, 2024
A Coffee Chat That'll Stir Your Thoughts... ☕
If I had the chance to sit down with you over a cup of coffee and get across some truths to you
– truths that I truly believe can transform your life –
here's what I would say…
(you may want to grab a cup of coffee before you get into this ☕️)
1. The rules are made up
You only have to explore one different culture to know that all the things you "should" be doing can change. Define success by your standards. Not everyone will understand your path and that's perfectly okay.
2. Stop waiting to be fearless
You don't need to feel confident and fearless to chase your dreams. Instead, it's your actions that build that confidence and prove your fear wrong. You will never feel fully ready, so start moving. The proof is in the progress.
3. Impress yourself first
It's human nature to care about others' opinions, but you can't manage them. It's an impossible task that only drains your energy. Instead, focus on impressing yourself. That's where your energy truly belongs.
4. Your perception will always be inaccurate
You only perceive a fraction of reality, and you can find evidence for almost anything you believe (good or bad). Accept that you're a little delusional – we all are. But if you're going to be delusional, be delusional in a way that serves you (Naval).
5. Celebrate your journey
You've come so much further than you think, but you don't see it because you're always moving the goal post. Measure the progress, not the distance to the goal. It will always be easier to see what is still missing, so actively recognize your accomplishments
6. Be your own best friend
Contrary to what you may have been taught, being hard on yourself doesn't help you grow. Being kind and self-compassionate empowers you more than any harsh judgment ever could. Learn to be your own best friend. It's a gift only you can give yourself.
7. Curiosity >>> judgment
Curiosity is the key that unlocks doors you didn't even know existed. Get curious about your mistakes, your feelings, your passions, your relationships, ... and watch magic happen. Judgment only ever slams those doors shut.
8. Stop trying to be perfect
Make the mistakes. Embrace failure as a way to learn. Perfection masks as a virtue, but it actually keeps you from your best work, and it also makes you feel miserable. Perfection isn't progress, it's a roadblock.
9. Listen to your feelings' message
Whether they're comfortable or uncomfortable, they are trying to tell you something important. Don't question, numb, or ignore your feelings. What they encourage you to do may not always be worth pursuing, but they are powerful messengers. Put on your Sherlock Holmes Hat and start deciphering them.
10. Transformation starts inside
If there's one thing we consistently underestimate, it's the power of our minds. Thoughts come and go, but you get to decide what to nurture. Your mindset can be your greatest asset or your biggest enemy – it's your choice.
And as we'd take our last sip of coffee, I'd remind us both:
These aren't just words to nod at and forget.
They are invitations to explore, change, and grow.
They are opportunities, for you – and for me – to step into our power and potential.
Rooting for you,
Charlotte
P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here's how I can support you:
1. Book a 1:1 Power Hour with me – a one-time intensive coaching call where we'll develop a clear path forward and address the mindset shifts necessary for your success. Learn more about what we can work on and book your slot here.
2. Join me for 1:1 business coaching. Working with me isn't just about scaling your business or brand, it's about scaling you. I’ve helped countless clients navigate their path with clarity, ease and confidence. Don't settle for the hustle-norm, and redefine success with balance at its heart. Apply here.
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