The 36-Hour Day

The 36-Hour Day is the standard for understanding what is happening to your world and your loved one when dementia enters your family. It’s a must-read. That’s all I have to say on the subject. It also should be read by family members not doing the caregiving to understand what the caregivers are having to cope with. Written by Nancy L. Mace MA and  Peter V. Rabins MD MPH.

The Last Lecture

Randy Pausch wrote the book I recommend when someone is facing a terminal illness.

His thoughts as he approached his own death will touch you. I guarantee it.

Dementia Caregiver Guide

Teepa Snow is the subject expert on dementia in terms of coping with behaviors and the realities of what it does. Teepa is a nurse who uses person-centered care interventions, including the GEMS and Positive Approach to Care techniques for those impacted by dementia.

I cannot recommend her work enough for anyone new to dementia or struggling with responding in a way that reduces stress and anger.

Stress-Relieving Adult Coloring Book

You know when you are stressed, sad, needing a break from life and people and noise and the world and… Let’s color. Simple designs created by Karalyn Rose will focus your eyes and brain on the simple act of coloring.

Focus on your breathing, your eyes, relax your shoulders, block the noise inside and out, and color.

Grandma D’s Bubbles

Debra Joy Hart’s story about explaining death and grief to a child is easy to read with children, and speaks in their language about coping with grief. The illustrations are beautiful, and the story make sense to kids of all ages. I cannot recommend this enough.

The Invisible Leash

“When our pets aren’t with us anymore, an Invisible Leash connects our hearts to each other. Forever.” That’s what Zack’s friend Emily tells him after his dog dies. Author Patrice Karst wrote the book “The Invisible String,”  which is a standard for children that talks about how heartstings tie us all together.  She and illustrator Joanne Lew-Vriethoff have created a beautiful book to explain coping with the death of pet.

Imaginations 2: Relaxation Stories and Guided Imagery for Kids

Adults are not the only ones who are stressed and need to learn better ways to relax and breathe. Kiddos need to do the same. This is one of the ways you can provide that kind of support. Created by Carolyn Clarke.

Your Present: A Half-Hour of Peace CD

Some people meditate quietly all by themselves. If you’re like me, I need some direction and a story. Guided imagery is what I recommend for my clients, and what I use myself to give my brain a break, and to get in touch with myself. It helped with grief, coping with dementia, and helps now in daily life. I like this particular book, but there are lots of others. I just wanted to get you to the idea.

“Be Present” Manifestation Tattoo 8-Pack

Sometimes we need a moment to make a statement – but not enough to make it permanent! Sometimes we just need a reminder of how well we can cope. I love these for days I am setting boundaries, or simply want a reason to be surprised into a smile. If you need reminding to “Just breathe” or to “Be present”, these temporary tattoos might just be for you.

Ultra Plush Weighted Blanket

Weighted blankets are the thing these days for a reason. They work. Anxiety? Weighted blanket. Feeling alone or abandoned? Weighted blanket. Need to feel all cozy and warm? Weighted blanket. This one is really plush and feels like curling up around a chinchilla. There are many others, in lots of colors, and a variety of weights. They are helpful for all ages, and have shown some impact on folks with dementia as well.

Warmies Microwavable French Lavender Scented Plush Sloth

When you are missing someone, or coping with stress, cuddling up with something soft, warm, and lavender scented can take the edge off. Stress and grief cause muscle tension, and this adorable sloth might just be your perfect helper. It is also a great bedtime companion for children, especially those having trouble sleeping.

Cherished Memorial Candle Holder or Jar

Lighting candles is a time-honored tradition for remembering people who have died. If I had my choice, there would be a standing bank of candles in my house. Having senior & blind Oodles means it would not be safe.  I like the message from Gandhi “There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.” 

When you are missing your loved one, or want to offer support to someone with a recent death, this is a great idea to express that feeling.

Memorial Jewelry for Pets

Mortuaries often offer cremation jewelry for people, but those grieving furbabies are not included.

We know that the loss of a furry family member counts just as much as a person. If you need to feel closer to your furbaby, this is an option.

If you click through you will find many more.

Pet Memorial Photo Ornament

At holidays, our loved ones belong on our trees, next to our menorahs, on the walls. They need to be remembered and their names spoken. Ornament gives you a place to keep your pet who died in your holidays.

You can find others on pet support websites as well.